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Frequent denial of sex breaks the marriage covenant as much as adultery

22 Sep

Hear, hear! Spot on.

If a church or ostensibly Christian ministry or organization teaches contrariwise, it is converged, and worthless, ‘Churchian’ rather than Christian.

WINTERY KNIGHT

Marriage and family Marriage and family

Let’s start this post by quoting a passage from the Bible.

1 Corinthians 7:1-5:

Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman.

But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.

The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.

The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

So with…

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Posted by on September 22, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

24 responses to “Frequent denial of sex breaks the marriage covenant as much as adultery

  1. feeriker

    September 22, 2016 at 3:51 pm

    Spot on!

    Sex denial over a period of YEARS is what killed my first marriage.

     
    • Will S.

      September 23, 2016 at 3:09 am

      It kills many, alas…

      Others, it doesn’t kill, but it ruins…

       
  2. Cecil Henry

    September 22, 2016 at 8:18 pm

    What is it with the pictures at Wintery Knight?? Every time — subversive or just bad taste??

     
    • Will S.

      September 23, 2016 at 3:11 am

      I don’t know. Maybe there’s a discount price on stock photos of non-white and mixed-race families. 😉

       
      • feeriker

        September 23, 2016 at 9:26 am

        Looking at that photo again, it gets me to thinking “hmmmm … maybe this is the loving, happy family that the man [who looks Caucasian, although it’s hard to tell just by looking at the back of his head] started with this beautiful, loving Asian woman who sexes him up nightly after he kicked to the curb the frigid white bitch who was denying him sex and making his life a living hell.”

        Or maybe I’m reading too much into one simple photo, but it sure doesn’t look like it from here …

         
      • Will S.

        September 23, 2016 at 12:48 pm

        Certainly looks like a happy family.

        My white dad found happiness with an Asian (East Indian) woman, and I’m the result, so I’m biased, but… 🙂

         
    • Peter Blood

      September 23, 2016 at 1:53 pm

      Wintery Knight is black, I think.

       
      • Will S.

        September 23, 2016 at 1:56 pm

        I believe he is, too.

         
  3. Peter Blood

    September 23, 2016 at 1:54 pm

    Mixed-race children are famously often neurotic if not crazy regarding identity. Will S., if you’re not, I congratulate you.

     
  4. Will S.

    September 27, 2016 at 3:12 am

    Ah yes; I think I’ve come across that self-loathing, sad individual before.

     
  5. feeriker

    September 28, 2016 at 2:06 pm

    I just stumbled across this old post that I made IRT this Dalrock article, one that I think every wife needs to “read and heed.” I’d completely forgotten about it, otherwise I would have made it my first post IRT the OP here:

    https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2016/04/13/not-in-the-picture/

    “Ladies,” I know this is difficult for the Hamster to process and if I could communicate the concept in non-logic-driven terminology I would. But I’m at a loss to do so, so here goes, once again:

    Bad things –VERY bad things– happen when you deny your husband sex over a long period of time. Think of a blockage of natural gas in a pipeline, or tectonic pressure in a volcano building up without a fissure point to release it. Eventually the pressure builds up to a point where it WILL find release – usually in an overwhelmingly and powerfully destructive way. Or, perhaps a better analogy, think of a starving person. At some point they’re going to find SOMETHING to eat, usually something the thought of which will turn your stomach (think of the movie “Alive!”).

    When your husband is denied sex, which for many –most?– of us men, especially us married men, is a need as essential as food, water, and oxygen, he is going to get his needs met somewhere else. As my late mother-in-law, in her inimitable ghetto fashion, warned my now ex-wife, who refused to listen: “you take care of your man, or some other bitch-ho will do it for you.”

    When you fall down on the job, “ladies,” don’t be surprised or angry if “some other bitch-ho” steps in and gets the job done for you. As [poster] Opus asks [upthread], in what can only be described as a common[sic]-sense question, WHAT ELSE DID YOU EXPECT TO HAPPEN UNDER THE CIRCUMSTANCES?

    I think a much better question to ask you (and what Opus could have asked his friend’s wife) is why do you care? Neglecting your husband sexually is the ultimate show of not caring, orher than perhaps leaving him to rot in hospice when he’s terminally ill. Matter o’ fact, sexual neglect of a husband represents one of the most serious breeches of contract posible where the marriage contract is concerned. If we lived in a just society in which rule of law prevailed, it would be grounds for termination of the contract (without your drawing any cash and prizes, I’m sorry to add). Alternatively, if you refused to provide sexually for your husband, you would ideally be compelled to compensate him for the breech by, for example, allowing or even providing him with a second wife, a mistress, or a concubine. So which do you prefer: replacement with a younger/better model, or “womaning up” and doing what you agreed to do when you let him put a ring on it? YOU DON’T GET TO HAVE IT BOTHS WAYS FREE OF CONSEQUENCES.

    That is all.

    //putting soap box away//

     
    • thedeti

      September 28, 2016 at 4:41 pm

      The number one problem in marriages today is women marrying men they aren’t sexually attracted to.

      The only way to solve this problem is for men to become more sexually attractive in every way – physically, frame-wise, more emotionally independent and grounded, less dependent on others in every way, and much less willing to put up with BS from any one woman.

       
      • feeriker

        September 29, 2016 at 1:56 pm

        The only way to solve this problem is for men to become more sexually attractive in every way – physically, frame-wise, more emotionally independent and grounded, less dependent on others in every way, and much less willing to put up with BS from any one woman.

        And if they can’t do that, then they should “buy an auxilliary spousal unit” that IS sexually attracted to them.

         
    • Will S.

      September 29, 2016 at 3:24 am

      Hear, hear!

       

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