Surely not that surprising to us Red Pillers, but anyway:
Heterosexual women have fewer orgasms than men or lesbian or bisexual women, a study suggests.
The findings came from a study of 52,600 people in the US, exploring the “orgasm gap” between the genders and different sexual orientations.
The report in Archives of Sexual Behaviour revealed a “variety of behaviours couples can try to increase orgasm frequency”.
These include oral sex and manual stimulation.
The study, by Indiana University, Chapman University and Claremont Graduate University, showed the proportion of people who usually orgasmed was:
- 65% of heterosexual women
- 66% of bisexual women
- 86% of lesbian women
- 88% of bisexual men
- 89% of gay men
- 95% of heterosexual men
Few heterosexual women climaxed through penetrative sex alone, the report said.
The study showed that “of particular importance was incorporating oral sex along with other activities during a sexual encounter”.
There was a clear pattern between more oral sex and more orgasms in heterosexual women, lesbian women, bisexual women, gay men and bisexual men.
Only in straight men was no link detected.
Other behaviours linked to greater orgasms in women were:
Asking for what they wanted in bed
Praising their partner for something they did in bed
Calling or emailing to tease about doing something sexual
Wearing sexy lingerie
Trying new sexual positions
Talking about or acting out sexual fantasies
Engaging in sexy talk and expressions of love during sex
Assuming, as appears, that the sample size chosen was large enough, and the methodology of the study sound and valid, how might we interpret their findings?
One thing I noticed immediately, is how different bisexuality is between the sexes. In women, bisexuals are only 1% different in their overall rate from straight women in their rates of orgasms, and both far experiencing a clear difference from lesbians who report 20% more orgasms than bisexual women and 21% more than straight women. Whereas in men, bisexual men interestingly report only 1% difference from gay men, and both only a small amount of difference from straight men, the range only spanning a difference of 7%. We can easily conclude that bisexual men are essentially gay men who occasionally hit it with women, whereas bisexual women are essentially straight women who occasionally have flings with women.
So, setting aside the bisexual data, what can we make of the greater range of levels of sexual satisfaction reported by women, versus the much narrower range (one third the size) reported by men?
The key is looking at the behaviours linked to greater rates of orgasms in women, in the short list above.
They essentially boil down to two main things: communicating one’s desires to one’s partner (preconditions of which would be: having such desires in the first place, and knowing what they are and/or having a willingness to try out new things, not being too shy to talk about such, and caring enough about one’s partner to have a level of openness and communication between each other that one feels comfortable and natural in raising such subjects), and caring enough about one’s partner to enjoy engaging in behaviour, activities, and dressing up in ways that stimulate the interest and desire of one’s partner, and therefore doing such things.
From the foregoing, given church culture often, in the past, downplaying female desires (telling women that they ought not to care about such matters), and given feminism’s and churchianity’s encouraging women to misuse their sexuality as a weapon to manipulate men (don’t give him any unless he does things for you that you want him to do, from taking out the trash and/or washing dishes, not leaving the toilet seat up, voting for who you think he should vote for, etc.), rather than as a means for married couples to grow closer to each other and enjoy each other’s company, is it any wonder that straight women in our society report lower sexual satisfaction than everyone else? When even those who recognize the problem can’t help but tell women to keep using sex as a manipulation tool, as a reward for doing dishes, etc.?
Of course, the media spin it as all men’s fault; and if only we men could be more like lesbians:
“Damn men, keeping on screwing up feminism from working properly!”
Blah blah blah fishcakes…