Category Archives: culture
It’s challenging enough growing up mixed-race, but one can come to terms with it.
However, it is all too often the case that adoptions across racial barriers can be problematic.
I knew a Korean boy adopted by a white family, who later decided he hated them for taking him away from his people. He also hated himself, and hung himself.
I knew a family who adopted a slew of kids of all different racial backgrounds, who have come in for quite a bit of grief in terms of lack of acceptance by people within their own ethnic minority community. The adoptive mother scolded her sister as racist for saying, “You know what our people are like; they won’t accept them”, but she was right, and well-meaning adoptive mother was wrong.
I know a family who has adopted a child who is only half-indigenous by birth father, but this child’s father’s band, two provinces over, have a meddling role in its raising, mandated by the courts. They have to keep the band informed of how they’re raising their child, what they’re doing to teach it about its heritage, etc. It’s ridiculous bullshit, and the government requires it.
Adoptions can be challenging enough in general, without having to complicate matters by adopting interracially.
Don’t do it.
I was thinking about the ubiquitousness of baby showers in our culture; all the womenfolk in my church like to gather together and throw baby showers for new mothers.
That’s fine, but it occurs to me, why don’t we celebrate fatherhood a bit more as men, when a new child is born?
Sure, there’s the pass around the cigars (or more likely chocolate cigars, today) and raise a toast to the new father on the birth of his son or daughter, but why didn’t our culture develop rituals for the menfolk?
From wikipedia, I learned that in the U.K., there’s some sort of ‘diaper party’ ritual:
Good for them. Pity such sorts of things haven’t taken off in the New World Anglosphere.
When the Reaction comes, I propose we invent new rites of passage to celebrate siring offspring. 🙂
If you Americans want an extra summer holiday, just have one for no reason like we Canadians do in August
Up here, the first Monday in August is a Civic Holiday.
I explained in my preface to this old linkfest years back:
For the benefit of my non-Canadian friends, I should explain: today is a holiday in most of Canada. In most of Ontario, where I am, it’s known as Civic Holiday, though in various cities it has been given specific names; it has other names in some other provinces.
Civic Holiday is really a holiday without a discernible point, rather than one truly commemorating an event or personage; as I once explained to an American friend, it’s just an excuse to give us a long weekend in August; hey, the Canadian summer is short, gotta take advantage of the good weather, and why not have an extra long weekend for partying / vacationing?
Even though you Americans generally have better weather and climate than us Canadians, still, why not? 🙂
Music may be written / composed by individuals and groups, but it becomes part of the commons; folk songs and songs like ‘Happy Birthday’ rightly belong to all and none; ditto beloved Christian hymns. Or, for that matter, karaoke…
Should composers of works that eventually become beloved folk or popular songs or hymns not be financially compensated for their work?
But in perpetuity?
His wife is Kyrgyz, IIRC.
I get it.
Not for me, but I totally get it, and good for him. 🙂
Though I think it’s unfortunate when so widespread it threatens the culture of a society, like the Faroe Islands.
… or because that culture is more prone to it anyway, but anyway:
Looks like a boy…