I was just reading a story at CBC News about a bad-behaviour-air-travel-passenger-shaming website, and I came across a couple of amusing comments, the second in response to the first:
I like Nick’s idea, but I love Werner’s tongue-in-cheek response.
I have long wondered why people bother taking their very young children, say, above still-nursing age but under three years old (and if your kid is talking, he / she shouldn’t still be nursing), on vacations with them, rather than leaving them with family. Since we don’t generally do ‘wet nurses’ in our society any more, and haven’t for many, many years (and it was mostly only rich who could have those, anyway), I can’t fault a mother who is still nursing for obviously wanting to feed and look after her young child herself, though I also wonder why it’s really that important for her to travel, esp. if it’s a vacation rather than a trip to visit family.
But if the child isn’t still nursing, but is still too young to be able to retain any lasting memories of the trip, I fail to see the benefit to the child of bringing it along, rather than leaving it in the care of a trusted relative or close family friend, assuming the kid wouldn’t be prone to screaming his/her head off and/or crying endlessly for his parents. (If not, then maybe the parents should wait till the kid is older to travel together with them.)
For example, when I was not yet 2 years old, my parents took me on a road trip to a distant part of Canada.
I naturally remember nothing of that trip, whatsoever. (When they took me again in my teenage years, as far as I’m concerned, that was my first trip there. BTW, to be clear, I bear them no grudges; I’m just noting that for all the trouble of travelling with a young infant, said child retained nothing, no memories of that trip at all.)
I do remember some bits of trips across and outside of Canada from between age 3 and 7 or so, say, and I remember most of a trip to the U.K. when I was 9, so clearly I was retaining everything by then.
But what benefit did I derive for being on that trip in my earliest years?
It’s not like I have any memories of the trip; wouldn’t it have been easier for my parents to leave me with my grandmother, or close family friends? (Possibly cheaper; almost certainly would be so for those taking planes, trains, or ships…)
Or waited a couple years until I could remember it?
I know those who are parents might tell me, “You’re not a father, Will; you just don’t get it.”
That’s right; I retain the ability to approach such matters rationally, coolly detached rather than emotionally.
So yeah, I don’t ‘get it’, if you mean I haven’t unconsciously just accepted that things are the way they are with parenting, and that there are no other possible ways of doing things, in such regards. Yeah, I don’t get it. 😉
Oh well; whatever. Your money, your kids, etc.; not mine.
But please think of others, when you’re flying / taking a train / ship, and your kids are screaming. Give them a bit of cough syrup with DM or codeine, and opiate them a little, please, for the sake of the rest of us. 😉