So I’m in a restaurant, sitting in a booth waiting for some friends, trying to access the internet on my laptop, finding the restaurant has no wireless (what kind of place still doesn’t have that? Oh well, whatever…)
A boyfriend/girlfriend couple is sitting next to me, trying to calmly discuss the prospect of marriage, clearly initiated by her. I learn they’ve been dating for two years, and are planning to move in together this summer; she’s arguing in favour of marriage, he’s telling her he’s open to the idea, but just isn’t sure yet, and can’t give her an answer, at this time, but maybe by the time they’re ready to move in together, he’ll know. She’s arguing that it’s the logical progression of their relationship. He’s not so sold on the idea, it seems.
And why would he be? Nothing suggests they’re Christians, committed to waiting for sex until they’re married; I’m sure they’ve already slept together, spent nights at each other’s places. She’s already about to give him the other thing that comes with most marriages – living together – without absolutely requiring that he first ‘put a ring on it’, so to speak, so what’s in it for him?
Now, with Ontario following British common law, in regards to marriage, eventually the government will declare them married, once they’ve lived together already for some period of time (I forget how long it is), whether or not they put in the effort to make it official before then by signing the papers either at a wedding service or at a Justice of the Peace.
So he’s right, there isn’t any point; they’ll end up married whether they do it deliberately or not.
They’ll just miss out on a potential Bridezilla having ‘her day’, as they say.
But, given that they’re both worldly folks anyway, I’m sorry he’s going to end up, if he is foolish enough to indeed move in with her, married to her in the eyes of the law. Right now, he’s got it made: he gets his jollies, but doesn’t risk divorce, alimony, etc. He’d be a fool to change that.