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Christian Blogger Tells Women Not to Obsess Over Unrealistic Proverbs 31 Woman

05 Sep

Oh, so God didn’t mean it when He included it in His Word, right…

Single, Christian women should not aspire to be like the Proverbs 31 woman who the Bible portrays as someone who has and can do it all because she is just not realistic, says South Carolina-based blogger Lauren Oquist.

Oquist, who works as a copywriter for NewSpring Church, admits that she “cringes” each time she hears someone say they want to be just like the woman described in the Bible. But her frustration is based on the misunderstanding that a woman’s standards should be found in a person and not Jesus.

“This hypothetical woman in Proverbs 31 is skillful in everything. According to the chapter, she wakes up super early, has great biceps, buys property, wears a lot of purple, cares for her kids, cares for the poor, keeps her home warm at night and doesn’t eat carbs,” Oquist writes in Relevant Magazine.  “Maybe you, like me, read this passage and think to yourself, ‘well sheesh is every woman supposed to try and fit this mold?'”

While Oquist establishes that she believes in the Bible and “actively” tries “to do what it says,” she wonders if women who hire nannies to care for their children or those who cannot cook, sew or do not even want to get married are living in sin because they are not living up to the Proverbs 31 woman.

Yes! Now ‘woman up’ and learn some traditional feminine skills!

And character traits, e.g. humility, not placing yourself above God’s Word, that kind of thing…

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15 responses to “Christian Blogger Tells Women Not to Obsess Over Unrealistic Proverbs 31 Woman

  1. Ras al Ghul

    September 5, 2014 at 10:05 pm

    It always appeared to me that every woman I have known thought proverbs 31 described them to a t. They didn’t feel bad, they felt vindicated.

     
  2. Will S.

    September 6, 2014 at 12:32 am

    Well, here’s one who feels guilty instead. 🙂

     
  3. Eric

    September 6, 2014 at 12:54 am

    I wonder how Olquist would feel if some minister told men that the Biblical ideals of being a husband and father were unrealistic and men should ignore them?

    She should go back and read the story about Christ forgiving the adulterous woman who was about to be stoned: the ‘realistic man’ (by her standards) would have been one of the Pharisees.

     
  4. Eric

    September 6, 2014 at 12:54 am

    Ras:
    They THINK it fits them to a ‘t’—in reality none of them even come close.

     
    • Will S.

      September 6, 2014 at 7:01 am

      Exactly, Eric.

       
  5. Will S.

    September 6, 2014 at 7:02 am

    On both counts.

     
  6. Will S.

    September 6, 2014 at 7:03 am

    “They THINK it fits them to a ‘t’—in reality none of them even come close.”

    Bingo.

     
  7. The Unreal Woman

    September 6, 2014 at 8:31 am

    Enh, the Proverbs 31 woman had servants and (probable) inherited wealth. The lady blogger is overreacting and projecting her insecurities like whoa, but she’s hardly the first to selectively read that chapter and make up a bunch of stuff about what it says. Men aren’t supposed to be islands and neither are SAHMs/housewives/etc.

     
  8. Ras al Ghul

    September 6, 2014 at 10:12 am

    Eric:

    “They THINK it fits them to a ‘t’—in reality none of them even come close.”

    I said the first part, the second part was implied and should be obvious.

    We live in a society where anything short of saying a woman is perfect out of the box is seen as misogynistic, and expecting anything from them is oppressive.

    The outraged reactions to anyone suggesting otherwise indicates and their heart most women know they are empty shells

     
  9. Will S.

    September 6, 2014 at 1:49 pm

    @ TUW: No doubt, but the difference between others who have had novel interpretations of it, and this woman, is that this woman calls for Christians to just ignore it, which is way over-the-top…

     
  10. lgrobins

    September 6, 2014 at 7:19 pm

    Fine line here. I can see how the Proverbs 31 woman can be seen as the parallel the modern woman with the “can have it all attitude”. It is important to strive to be all those things, but the problem comes from when the Christian crowd and the secular “modern woman can have it all” crowd when they make an idol out of those sorts of women and anyone who doesn’t fit the list is deemed not a “real woman”.

     
  11. Will S.

    September 6, 2014 at 8:59 pm

    Agreed. Ideals are something to be striven for, not something meant to indicate that if you fail to meet every particular, that you are worthless.

     
  12. feeriker

    September 11, 2014 at 1:49 am

    While Oquist establishes that she believes in the Bible and “actively” tries “to do what it says”

    I suppose she thinks she deserves some sort of award for that.

    1. Satan “believes in” the Bible

    2. “Actively trying” [insert New Age definition here] to “do what [the Bible] says” is counted as a success even if one goes off the rails, just as “actively trying” to save an accident victim is counted as a success even if the patient bleeds out in the ER. Right?

     
  13. Will S.

    September 11, 2014 at 7:10 am

    Exactly.

     

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