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Female Dartmouth student plagued by stalker may drop out over school’s anti-gun policy

07 Aug

Fox News has the story. (Hat tip: Wintery Knight)

Frankly, I don’t have much sympathy.

Because the issue is not about stalking or guns; the root problem lies elsewhere.

It’s about two things: social media, and young women’s focus on careers.

If young women weren’t putting their personal information, their hopes, dreams, plans, out on social media for all the world to see, a stalker who meets them working as a teenager in a café would not know their plans, as to where they were going to be going on even a given evening, much less when and where they’re going to school, what they’re studying (to be able to potentially find out where their classes are), what residence or neighbourhood they’re living in, etc. People, esp. women, on social media give far too little thought to the consequences of putting out all their personal information, stuff a stalker might find useful in stalking them.

Of course, a young woman of middle and upper class background who is NOT bent on a career requiring higher education, also might well not be working at a café at sixteen to try to raise money to pay for it. And we patriarchal reactionaries all know that society is the worse off for women delaying marriage and childbearing in pursuit of higher education and careers; society would be far better off if women’s priorities were much as they used to be, NOT regarding a high-paying career as the ultimate achievement to which they should aspire. And a working-class woman would probably end up working NOT during her high school years, but after them, at something like a factory job as they’ve long done, but not have that be the ‘end-all, be-all’, focus of their lives, making room for meeting a husband and raising kids.

Thinking about this particular situation: the guy got arrested, and is in jail, and may well end up sentenced to four years in prison.

Let’s say she hadn’t moved away, but as he stalked her locally, she was just as able to get him arrested and imprisoned.

A woman not blabbing about her life on social media AND not going away to get an expensive Ivy League education, who was still afraid of him stalking her on his release, could change jobs, and/or move away, and/or potentially concealed / open carry a weapon as she desires if she’s living and working in a state that allows such, and/or find a nice guy, get married, and entrust her protection ultimately to him. And while still at home, in a more traditional society, her father would be her protection, and hopefully see himself in such a role, rather than pushing her towards / being okay with her decision to pursue higher education and a high-paying career.

There will always be stalkers, unfortunately.

But different societal circumstances would lessen their opportunities, which would be a good thing in itself.

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12 responses to “Female Dartmouth student plagued by stalker may drop out over school’s anti-gun policy

  1. Will S.

    August 7, 2014 at 2:45 pm

    @ Zrim:

    I know you’re a proud PR and all, but this is one of thee dumbest things I’ve read in a while. Are you seriously blaming this woman for her own stalking because she has the audacity to go to college? Are you sure you’re no fan of the Baylys et al? And what makes you think her educational pursuits are about a “high paying career”? But contrary to your sophomoric reasoning, the problem with stalking is in fact stalking. Duh. I bet if you try dialing down your ideology for a few minutes you just might see it.

    I don’t read the Baylys; I may well agree with them on culture war matters; I’m a reactionary.

    I’m not blaming her for her being stalked; I’m noting that if we didn’t have social media, and we didn’t have women pursuing careers requiring post-secondary education (which tend to pay better than simple jobs as waitresses, secretaries, and such; maybe not all high paying, but higher paying than factory work, too – and the odds are, someone attending an Ivy League school is hoping for a good job), and we had a more traditional society in which women looked to their fathers or their husbands for their security, and not to themselves, this situation where she’s trying to get a school to change its weapons policies wouldn’t even be an issue.

    And I care more about restoring a traditional society than I do about the problems of one young woman, that have arisen largely as a result of the social changes that have happened, since we abandoned that traditional society, and have gotten the one we have today. Tough shit.

    I noticed you didn’t respond to my last comment to you here the other day.

    But you come here to my blog to bleat about something entirely unrelated, and going on in a typical knee-jerk femiservative fashion, completely misunderstanding me, and too blinded by your own ideological blinkers to see the ultimate truth of my assertions. (Not that I expect everyone to agree with me; we do have debates here. But not with insulting, misrepresenting folks.)

    Well, you don’t get to comment here. Our blog, our rules. 🙂

     
  2. Will S.

    August 7, 2014 at 2:47 pm

    And I ain’t exchanging the right hand of fellowship to you, either, brother.

     
  3. Eric

    August 8, 2014 at 1:27 am

    I really feel little sympathy for women who claim to be victims of stalkers either. Mostly if they’d stay away from (and stop advertising for) psychotic and thuggish males; stalking wouldn’t be much of an issue. And it would help too if they stopped squawking about how they ‘don’t need a man’ for protection and things. Having a REAL man for a boyfriend/husband would tend to discourage stalking too.

     
    • Will S.

      August 8, 2014 at 1:37 am

      I feel some sympathy if it’s a case like this – a 67-year-old customer at the café she first worked at, rather than some badboy she had dated who wouldn’t take no for an answer.

      But yeah, women who date thugs because they make them wet get no sympathy from me when something bad happens.

      If they’d date non-thugs, decent guys, and marry one, then indeed, they wouldn’t have as much to worry about, other than weirdo strangers occasionally.

       
  4. Sanne

    August 8, 2014 at 4:13 am

    A woman can’t be glued to a man 24 hours in a day for protection. Sometimes you have to go out and do things. You know, even housewives don’t spend all of their time in the house. Since a man per definition is much stronger than a woman, carrying a weapon such as a gun, makes perfect sense to me. I wish it were allowed over here…

    As for college, well, it’s more often than not the parents who insist upon it. It’s a class marker so that middle class parents will push their daughters to go to school, no matter what. When you are at a certain level in society, you can’t have your daughter working as a waitress. Also most men of status won´t marry such a girl. I wish things were different but they are what they are.

     
  5. Will S.

    August 8, 2014 at 8:32 am

    Hey Sanne,

    I realize that a man isn’t able to be his wife’s protection 24/7; after all, he is out working 8-12 hours a day, she is away from him that whole time. I can certainly see how being able to carry a weapon could help a woman feel safer. I can also appreciate how a university might baulk at the prospect of that.

    Yes, it is often the parents who push their children in that direction, which is why I tried to acknowledge that in my paragraph near the bottom.

     
  6. feeriker

    August 8, 2014 at 3:48 pm

    If young women weren’t putting their personal information, their hopes, dreams, plans, out on social media for all the world to see, a stalker who meets them working as a teenager in a café would not know their plans, as to where they were going to be going on even a given evening, much less when and where they’re going to school, what they’re studying (to be able to potentially find out where their classes are), what residence or neighbourhood they’re living in, etc.

    Gosh, if I didn’t know better, I’d say that you were implying that most women have a gnat larva’s grasp of the concept of Cause and Effect. Of course I DO know better, since, after all, women never hesitate to step up to the plate and take full responsibilty for the consequences of their behavior. Emmerite?

     
  7. feeriker

    August 8, 2014 at 3:51 pm

    Sanne said
    …carrying a weapon such as a gun, makes perfect sense to me. I wish it were allowed over here…

    Where is “over here,” just out of curiosity?

     
  8. Will S.

    August 8, 2014 at 10:47 pm

    @ feeriker: 🙂

    They completely lack any sense of self-awareness, because they’ve never needed it.

    I’d like to pull the rug out from under them, and force them to adapt real quick.

    Our friend Sanne, if you scroll over her name, you’ll see her blog ends in ‘BlogSpot.nl’, which means she’s from the Netherlands.

     
  9. feeriker

    August 9, 2014 at 12:50 am

    They completely lack any sense of self-awareness, because they’ve never needed it.

    I’d like to pull the rug out from under them, and force them to adapt real quick.

    Well, the good news is that once TSHTF (that is, in the very near future), there won’t be an endless supply of men around anymore to white knight for them. Either they resolve their rectal-cranial inversion problem and start living as responsible adults, or they get ground up in the chaos (I predict a less than 10 percent survival rate for today’s spoiled western girl-children in adult bodies).

     
  10. Will S.

    August 9, 2014 at 1:00 am

    There’s a silver lining in every dark cloud! 🙂

     

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