Irish writer tries to help a woman in a domestic dispute; gets assaulted

09 Jul

This is why it’s a good idea not to play hero and intervene in a domestic dispute:

A Connecticut man who assaulted acclaimed Irish author Colum McCann last month outside a hotel after the author tried to help the man’s wife following a domestic dispute has been charged.

Michael Mott, 34, of Oxford was charged with assault in the June 28 incident outside the Study Hotel in New Haven.

Mott confessed to assaulting McCann, 49, and turned himself in Monday evening, police said. They declined to elaborate.

McCann, the author of ‘Let the Great World Spin,’ was treated for significant facial injuries at Yale-New Haven Hospital.

Witnesses suggested McCann had tried to help a woman who was involved in a dispute in the hotel lobby, police said.

Police said Mott had a dispute with his wife after hotel staff told the couple the credit card Mott used didn’t have sufficient funds to pay for the room.

‘What we believe happened is that the victim tried to intercede in what appeared to be a domestic dispute between a man and a woman,’ Assistant Police Chief Archie Generoso told the New Haven Independent last week. ‘He saw a woman pushed to the ground. He tried to assist the woman.

‘He asked the woman if she wanted him to call the police. He urged her to do so. She said she didn’t want to call the police. The guy said, ‘It’s your decision.’ He turned around, began to walk away, and he was assaulted.’

McCann went outside where he was attacked, police said. Police say Mott punched McCann, who lost consciousness.

She didn’t want help – from him, or police.

All his interfering did, was result in him getting assaulted himself.

A lesson, in that, for would-be ‘heroes’ seeking to assist a ‘damsel in distress’.


Posted by on July 9, 2014 in America, Masculinity


10 responses to “Irish writer tries to help a woman in a domestic dispute; gets assaulted

  1. rezzrovv

    July 10, 2014 at 7:08 am

    Certainly not excusing the behavoir of Mott and I actually think McCann’s actions weren’t out of line as he withdrew once the woman said she didn’t want assistance; however, Mott was already in a state of humiliation and the woman likely exacerbated this in some way by rolling her eyes or showing some other sign of disrespect. Add on top of that McCann attempting to show himself the better man to Mott’s woman no less and there you have it. A lesser man cannot contain his instinctual nature with his intentional self when being disrespected.

  2. Will S.

    July 10, 2014 at 10:33 am

    McCann did a noble thing, but the thing is, if a guy is going to beat a woman, he’s likely to turn on you if you ‘interfere’, likely because indeed he feels ‘showed up’ by someone who is of a better class than himself – so he feels threatened.

    I contend that a woman who is stupid enough to marry an asshole like that isn’t worth rescuing. Fuck her. She made her bed; now she can lie in it. Not worth rescuing. Especially when, as we see, she indicates she doesn’t want help – they almost never do. They blame themselves, and since they were stupid enough to marry a thug, they’re actually right to do so. The violence itself is not their fault, but if they’d chosen better, not ignored red flags and not gone with such guys because they turned them on, they wouldn’t fall prey.

    Stupid women do stupid things, and fall prey to their stupid decisions.

    That doesn’t in any wise excuse the thugs – they’re still assholes – but I’ll be damned if I’m gonna save some dumb bitch from the effects of her own stupid choices.

    Fuck that.

    They don’t deserve chivalry. Only ladies, not all women, do.

    And no-one, man or woman, will ever shame me into thinking or doing otherwise.

  3. sfcton

    July 10, 2014 at 5:48 pm

    Why back in the day when I was a broke @$$ private, I worked as a bouncer for extra money. Any rate, this one time at band camp a dude was slapping the bartender around and calling her names. A punch to the kidney and a stomp to the heel and the dude is down. Guess who smashes me in the head with a bottle of rot gut? That’s right boys and girls, the bartender was pissed at me for beating up her man.

    I will not lift a finger to help a woman who ain’t kin or paying me to.

  4. Will S.

    July 10, 2014 at 6:44 pm


    What a bitch!

    Yeah, I don’t blame you.

    Women today are not worth defending, unless it’s someone you know very well, and know that she’s a lady, and not a fool dating some asshole.

    Otherwise, not worth the risk.

    And to any woman who thinks otherwise? I say to you: change the culture; change your sisters, make the majority of them lady-like again.

    If you can pull that off, then maybe we can revisit old-fashioned norms of chivalry.

    Till then, they are dead – as they deserve to be, today, since very few women are ladies any more; no reason for most men to assume most women are, and automatically act like a gentleman in all circumstances, without knowing anything about an ostensible ‘damsel in distress’.

    Fuck that.

    Not in this 21st century, decline and fall stage of our civilization.

    ‘Enjoy the decline!’, as the Captain says. 🙂

  5. Bub

    July 11, 2014 at 11:53 pm

    My two cents: You can and should step in if you’re sure she’s truly in need and she’s not gutter trash or ghetto trash. The trashy ones turn on you every time. And be ready to fight. If you can’t or aren’t willing to fight then forget it. Call the cops maybe.
    The good news is 99%+ of the time you see this situation, they won’t be worth your time and trouble.

  6. Will S.

    July 12, 2014 at 2:24 am

    And if you’re sure she didn’t mouth off and aggravate someone by being a mouthy bitch, talking smack to some trash, counting on her man to stand up for her – we’ve all heard how badly that has ended for such men (and the woman), in many such cases. If you’re an outsider, stay the fuck out of those situations, and haul ass to safety…

    Yes, if you can be sure she isn’t trashy, or trash-talking, and you think you are in a position to help without putting yourself at undue risk, by all means, help if you feel compelled to.

    I do similarly think that 99.99%+ of the time, they’ll either not be worth helping, or you won’t know enough to make an informed decision, in which case, why risk your own neck…

  7. Will S.

    July 12, 2014 at 2:45 am

    In olden days, when the default position for many if not most women was to behave more ladylike, it was more worth putting yourself at personal risk, because you had more assurance the woman was one worth saving.

    Today, it’s the exact opposite way around, esp. with young women; so, accordingly, it’s not worth the risk…

  8. feeriker

    July 14, 2014 at 1:17 am

    In olden days, when the default position for many if not most women was to behave more ladylike, it was more worth putting yourself at personal risk, because you had more assurance the woman was one worth saving.

    In them thar olden days when women were actually ladylike (for the most part) it was seldom ever necessary to rescue a damsel in distress. Very few of them, being the ladies that they were, would ever get themselves in situations that required a white knight to rescue them (i.e., their mouths seldom ever wrote checks, while they were in some ueber-bitch state, that their asses couldn’t cash).

  9. Will S.

    July 14, 2014 at 8:24 am



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