Does the above child look like a little girl to you, in dress and overall appearance?
She doesn’t to me, either.
And we’re not alone; and because of the confusion caused by the contrast between her boyish appearance and her actual sex, her private Christian school decided to bar her from continuing to attend so long as she looked and dressed in such a way as to cause confusion, which her great-grandparents (initially misidentified in the media as her grandparents), who seem to be her legal guardians, bitched to the media about, blaming the school for rejecting her solely on her clothes and haircut.
Despite being a private school, who have the right to choose who they will allow to attend, the school received much flak for their decision. They have now issued an explanation, one which seems entirely reasonable to me.
With all due respect, the facts are not as S.K.’s great-grandparents have portrayed them. This matter is far beyond a simple ‘hairstyle and tomboy issue’ as inaccurately portrayed. It is not about that at all. At no time did the Church or the School state or imply that S.K. was sexually immoral or the like. Yet, reports like this have appeared in the media. The School has never told S.K. she cannot return to school.
The Church and the School have a responsibility to all students, their parents, and guardians. Parents and guardians send their children to the School because of our Christian beliefs and standards. We have a duty to create an environment that is supportive of these Christian values. We cannot have conflicting messages or standards because such conflict will confuse our students and frustrate the parents and guardians who have entrusted the education of their children to us. When elementary children and their parents or guardians express concerns regarding use of the restroom and other matters arising from the sensitive issues here, the School has a duty to address those concerns and to ensure that all interests are heard and protected in accordance with the Christian mission of the School. While we welcome all students, parents and guardians are made aware of the School’s Christian mission and beliefs. We not only have a right, but we also have a duty to uphold these Christian standards.
Indeed. Imagine being a little girl, and not understanding that a little girl entering the little girl’s room is also a little girl like yourself, and feeling uncomfortable, as a result. An entirely understandable reaction; and since one’s clothing and hairstyle are matters of choice, there’s no reason why, in a civil society, one even as young as eight shouldn’t be expected to adhere to such norms, for the benefit of all. Of course, today we do live in a time when transsexuals scorn us ‘cis-sexuals’ for our ‘cis-normativity’, and demand access to whichever washroom or changeroom they want to use, regardless of how others might feel about having to use the washroom with those who by birth were of the opposite sex, even if they had surgery to make them each seem like the sex opposite the one they were born as. And while this is a different matter, it is related, at least tangentially. And Christians should not be about challenging sex roles and ‘stereotypes’ – shame on the churchian great-grandparents for not raising their little girl to be one, for not either conforming to the school’s requests or just going away and finding another school quietly, instead making a big fuss. Shame on them!