Gay sperm donor must pay out for daughters he barely knows

30 Oct

From the United Kingdom, a tale of our times:

Mark Langridge didn’t want children, but his lesbian friends did – so he agreed to donate his sperm.

Now his ‘act of kindness’ has come back to haunt him 13 years later, after he received a letter demanding child support payments.

Mr Langridge has not spoken to the family he helped create since 2004.

He was not named on the birth certificates of the two children, and played no role in their upbringing – but the Child Support Agency insists he has to pay £26 a week to support them.

He says he cannot afford the payments, which will add up to £8,000 before both children reach adulthood.

The 47-year-old book-keeper from Essex has been in a relationship with his partner Shaun Keeble, 37, for 17 years.

‘Me and Shaun were not interested in having children of our own,’ he said. ‘When the idea [of donating sperm] was suggested, we thought it sounded like a lovely thing to do. But the last few months have been a complete nightmare.

‘I feel as if I am the victim of a state-sponsored blackmail plot … It was purely an act of kindness on my part and now I am being made to pay.’

Mr Langridge and Mr Keeble met the women in a gay nightclub in Southend in 1997, and became good friends.

When one of the women revealed she was desperate to have children Mr Langridge agreed to help, as long as there were no strings attached.

‘I did not ask for anything to be documented legally and with hindsight perhaps I should have done,’ he said.

After the birth of a baby girl in late 1998, Mr Langridge was asked to donate again – and a second girl was born in 2000.

When the children were young, Mr Langridge remained in touch with the mother, and saw the girls at social events.

He said he was surprised when introduced as their father and later advised the children to ask their mother to explain the facts of their birth.

The two couples eventually drifted apart, and apart from occasional letters from the girls Mr Langridge has had no contact with the family since 2004.

In the intervening years the lesbian couple separated, leaving the biological mother with both children. She has since started claiming benefits from the State.

Mr Langridge received his letter from the CSA in June.

He said the biological mother’s former partner continues to live near the former family home and sees the girls at weekends – but is not being chased for child support.

He stressed that he made sure the couple had the funds to bring up children before he donated his sperm.

The CSA said that if Mr Langridge had used an official sperm donation centre he would not have to pay child support – but informal arrangements are not covered by the law. Mr Langridge argues that the rules should be changed.

The only way he can protest against the CSA’s ruling is by taking his case to a judicial review, which could cost in the region of £60,000.

Last night the mother of the children said: ‘It’s all being dealt with at the moment and I don’t want to comment.’

The only comment I have to make on this unfortunate-all-around tale, is that I note that in the P.C. pecking order in Britain, we see here that lesbian outranks gay, which isn’t really surprising.


45 responses to “Gay sperm donor must pay out for daughters he barely knows

  1. Ollie

    October 30, 2012 at 10:25 am

    You know this is actually some very good news. It means that those “End of Men” types who want to reduce men to the role of genetic donor will pay through the nose for that privilege. These two knuckleheads may get a free ride from their convenient back stab, but they are ruining it for the uh, “sisterhood”.

    The best way to fight back against the excesses of liberal modernism is to push these views to their logical conclusion far enough to where things start getting crowded and cantankerous within that great big liberal coalition tent.

    It’s been a herculean effort to hold a coalition together – like binding many compressed springs into a box – because many of the groups within have a huge sense of self-importance and idealism.

    The trick is to see those enormous tensions, and release them.

  2. a tiny little mouse

    October 30, 2012 at 10:49 am

    Hopefully it will make other men think twice before they donate sperm.

  3. Professor Hale

    October 30, 2012 at 11:37 am

    HAHHAHAHAA! Perfect. The lesbian partner should pay too. No free rides. If you are complicit in making the babies, You support them.

  4. Professor Hale

    October 30, 2012 at 11:39 am

    Also, if a fertility clinic helped, the doctors there should have to pay too.

  5. Take The Red Pill

    October 30, 2012 at 11:51 am

    Straight men have already learned not to date, marry, or have children with today’s spoiled, overprivileged, over-entitled “strong’, ‘independent’ women. Hopefully, he’s learned his lesson.

    ALL males should learn from his mistake. For any male, gay or straight: DON’T EVER donate your sperm to anyone for any reason. Remember: “No good deed goes unpunished.”

  6. Tom

    October 30, 2012 at 12:05 pm

    She is what they call a “strong and independent woman”.

    Thinks she “don’t need no man to have a baby”…. and thinks she can “make her own decisions”…. but then holds her hand out for the state – and a man – to pay for her mistakes and shitty choices.

    A lesbian “desperate to have a baby”????


  7. Will S.

    October 30, 2012 at 1:38 pm

    My hope is indeed that men all think long and hard about whether they wish to be so cavalier with their sperm as to give it away, whether or not for payment, rather than either saving it for fathering children through normal means with one’s wife, or keeping it to oneself, so to speak.

    As for homos, as far as I’m concerned, they already decided, by foregoing a normal heterosexual lifestyle, to forego parenting, since by their chosen lifestyle they can’t produce any. No man, gay or straight, should give a lesbian his sperm, because you can be more sure than even with a straight woman that such a man-hating bitch as a radical lesbian (and you can’t tell if one is or isn’t, unless you really know her very well) is going to screw you over, somehow, if it’s profitable for her to do so, with even less qualms than a straight woman might possibly have.

  8. Chris

    October 30, 2012 at 3:18 pm

    A have some sympathy for the man: he did what he thought was an act of helping and then went on happily living the Ghey DINK lifestyle. The Child support agency has been (as usual) heavy handed, fascist, and with no flexibility.

    The only women who you should breed with are those married to you… and as Dalrock said, you select a highly religious woman of good character (and worship in a church full of these people — not allowing Kvetch fests or gossip networks).

    And even then, there is a risk. But it will improve. Because the tensions among the left coalitions are going to make them shatter, messily, into little groups. And we cannot afford to run ths artificial society when we become poor. (Which, given current policies in the USA, will happen).

  9. Will S.

    October 30, 2012 at 3:32 pm

    I have some sympathy for any victim of government tyranny, even if they were fools in the first place.

  10. Johnycomelately

    October 30, 2012 at 5:49 pm

    How on earth is the other partner not on the hook for payments? A non biological father is on the hook if he held out that he was a parent, so how does this not apply to same sex partners?

  11. Will S.

    October 30, 2012 at 6:18 pm

    A good question, Johny.

  12. Tom

    October 30, 2012 at 6:25 pm

    He doesn’t think he should be on the hook because the woman MISLED him. She misrepresented herself, her intentions, her own abilities, her agenda…. and like so many single mothers out there who think they “don’t need a man to have a baby”…. when they finally figure out they REALLY DO need a man –>> they can’t GET one. But his money will do.

    Single mothers are the number one cause of single motherhood.

  13. Will S.

    October 30, 2012 at 7:21 pm

    The sad thing is, Tom, is that at the time, she and her partner likely never foresaw that they would split up, and I doubt she had the intent of screwing him over like that from the get-go; most people are not that wilfully malicious. But, once her circumstances changed, she went to the State, and the State, the damned evil system, swung into action and went after him. I’m not letting her off the hook; she probably knew that would happen, and didn’t care, and by naming him to the State as the father, allowed for this to happen. I just don’t know that she planned it from the beginning. But in any case, this is a cautionary tale for men, even queers, not to give away their sperm.

  14. Tom White

    October 30, 2012 at 9:18 pm


  15. Will S.

    October 30, 2012 at 9:29 pm

    Who are you feeling that towards?

  16. katmandutu

    October 30, 2012 at 9:58 pm

    You reap what you sow.
    Immorality abounds when God is eschewed, in favour of self.

  17. Will S.

    October 30, 2012 at 11:18 pm

    Indeed, Kathy.

  18. infowarrior1

    October 31, 2012 at 1:26 am

    I am a strong independent woman. Not!!!

  19. Will S.

    October 31, 2012 at 1:34 am


  20. Gerry T. Neal

    October 31, 2012 at 11:34 am

    I think Cicero’s famous words “O Tempora, O Mores!” about sums this situation up.

  21. Will S.

    October 31, 2012 at 11:44 am


  22. caseydeann

    October 31, 2012 at 11:25 pm

    Reblogged this on Nomad Forgotten and commented:
    The innumerable wrongs of sperm donation, gay culture, IVF, lesbianism, big government, feminism, and gay marriage’s implications all raveled into one.

  23. Will S.

    October 31, 2012 at 11:55 pm

    Exactly, caseydeann.

    Welcome to Patriactionary. I know you’re online pals with Chesterpoe, as are we. 🙂

  24. caseydeann

    November 1, 2012 at 1:31 am

    Hello, my dear fellow reactionaries! I appreciate the welcome, Will. It feels nice to find sanity in our world.

  25. Will S.

    November 1, 2012 at 1:31 pm

    Indeed. 🙂

  26. Doc

    November 10, 2012 at 11:07 am

    I learned a long time ago – only bang married chicks if you plan on getting them pregnant. That way their husbands are BY LAW the Father and have to pay for the little rug-rats… Now the key thing to know here is it doesn’t matter if a DNA test shows he’s NOT the Father – it does not matter. So you are not on the hook, and he is.

    Yet another reason why you do not want to marry… But if you want to knock up a woman – limit yourself to the married ones. That is the saftest way – at least if you want to protect yourself from being responsible for child-support. Of course, you may find yourself looking down the business end of a gun should he find out, but hey – there are no free rides… Although married women are about as close as you can get to it, since they go home, don’t call at weird hours, and generally behave themselves at least from your perspective… 🙂

  27. Will S.

    November 10, 2012 at 11:15 am

    Ah, interesting. 🙂

    • Tom

      November 10, 2012 at 12:14 pm

      @DOC. VERY interesting. I especially enjoyed your addition: “Of course, you may find yourself looking down the business end of a gun should he (the husband) find out“.

      Fascinating how’s ALWAYS implied that a man’s first instinct would be to brandish a gun his wife’s lover —->> INSTEAD OF THE MARRIED SLUT WHO WILLINGLY SPREAD HER LEGS FOR (AND ALLOWED HERSELF TO GET PREGNANT BY) SOMEONE ELSE.

      Make women PAY for their own mistakes.

      The unmarried guy who bangs a wife is not the problem.

      SHE is.

      It wouldn’t have happened unless SHE wanted it to.

      (apolz for the use of caps. Emphasis, you know.)

  28. Will S.

    November 10, 2012 at 2:43 pm

    I’ve never understood the kind of man who, upon discovering his wife has been unfaithful, is most mad at the guy she cheated with, rather than directing his anger at the one who made it possible – his own unfaithful wife.

    I wish Canada, and the U.S., were more like Mexico and Latin American countries, in which, if an unfaithful wife and her lover turn up dead, the police turn a blind eye, and don’t bother to investigate or prosecute… After all, a crime of passion of that kind which goes unpunished is hardly a threat to the social order; on the contrary, it actually reinforces it, positively.

    • Tom

      November 10, 2012 at 3:04 pm

      Well that’s because (as I’ve commented before) women are like little children. They don’t know they are fucking up. Men know this. To make women behave properly, they need more training than a killer whale and more discipline than a sack of lard. You have to beat lard pretty heavily to get meringue. And yes, I know meringue comes from egg whites — which is precisely the point. No matter how heavily you beat lard, you will never get meringue.

      You don’t get mad at an untrained dog for shitting on the rug.
      Women just don’t know any better.

      Men are perfectly willing to pay for their mistakes….
      women expect MEN to pay for HER mistakes.

      Rather than blaming a dog for shitting on the rug, you have to blame the owner for not training it properly. That’s why men point to OTHER MEN to accept responsibility for the stupid slut who simply refuses to do so. With no moral compass… a woman will walk her kids of a goddam cliff unless there was a sign with a cartoon man on the railing giving her the stupid eye.

      Asking a woman to pay for her mistakes like shoving a puppy’s nose into it’s own shit. She will think you’re being cruel. Men are better than women because women EXPECT men to be better – and more responsible – than women.

      This fact has held women back more than any mythical glass ceiling.

  29. Will S.

    November 10, 2012 at 4:11 pm

    That clip was excellent.

  30. Tom

    November 10, 2012 at 4:28 pm

    If you liked that…. you would LOVE “Leykis – deceptive Andrea”. Married girl goes out and bangs a nameless black stranger in a parking garage… then wants to pass the baby off as her husband’s. Says she refuses to get an abortion for “moral” reasons. That’s what I’m talking about.

    Lesson learned:

    Don’t be the husband.
    Be the nameless black stranger she has sex with.

  31. Will S.

    November 10, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    Or be neither.

  32. Tom

    November 10, 2012 at 4:51 pm

    Again that’s placing the responsibility on the MAN – where it doesn’t belong. It’s up to the WIFE to avoid that situation. She can avoid it 100%. The “nameless black stranger” did nothing wrong. He had sex with a woman who was willing – who sought it out (KNOWINGLY AND INTENTIONALLY) and allowed herself to get pregnant in the process — while expecting her husband to pay for her mistake.

    …. just like the lesbians in the original article.

    It’s a wonder women actually the nerve to hold their hands out for “respect”.

  33. Will S.

    November 10, 2012 at 4:55 pm

    Remember Tom, we’re Christians here; we don’t believe in fornication; and we consider it wrong for all would-be participants.

    Thus, all would-be participants in fornication, if they do not avoid it, and in fact engage in it, are responsible for their actions.

  34. Tom

    November 10, 2012 at 5:08 pm

    Yes I’m also born and raised Christian. Just not catholic. I’m merely exploring Doc’s (above) interesting perspective. Sex is the entire biological POINT between men and women. Marriage and religion are not. Those came millions of years after the fact.

    Christian or not – one can’t expect others to apologize for sex and nature’s biological hardwiring and intent.

    One can only be responsible for their OWN actions.
    I have personally never banged a married chick – and never will.
    Because as a man, I have something known as “integrity”.

  35. Will S.

    November 10, 2012 at 5:11 pm

    Integrity is something we prize. As for hardwiring, of course, but by the same token, we’re humans, not beasts of the field; we actually can make conscious decisions to do or not do things, we don’t have to submit to every biological imperative, always… And a desire is not necessarily a need; one can desire more food even when one’s belly is full, and it isn’t a need, just a wish… And while one cannot live without food and drink, one can live without sex, if one chooses to do so.

  36. Will S.

    November 10, 2012 at 5:15 pm

    I’m not Catholic either – but I am a traditionalist Protestant. You see our subtitle, up there? “Old strong religion”; not only is that a Cordwainer Smith reference, but it refers to the kind of Christian faith to which all of us here at Patriactionary adhere – the old-fashioned, traditional kind, which, despite some differences, is by and large the same thing regardless of whether we’re Protestant or Catholic, and we’re both, here.

  37. Tom

    November 10, 2012 at 5:27 pm

    Agreed. The key to REAL contentment (happiness will surely follow) for a man –> is to be able to go indefinitely without sex. A take-it-or-leave it attitude instantly strips a woman of all power…. and as “game” would have it, will also universally make him more attractive to women. The question “Why isn’t he trying to have sex with me???” confuses the hell out of women….. and even if he is a man of good character – he will notice that panties everywhere will seem to magically fall off on their own.

    I didn’t set this standard.
    WOMEN do.

    However sex (and mating) IS a necessity of life.
    Life cannot continue without it.
    Even MORE so for women than for men.

    The female obsession with sex (and babies) is her first, best way to get her greedy claws into a man’s WALLET. Even a man who is not the father. Hiding behind her “religion” gives her plausible deniability and the current laws and “oops I’m pregnant . YOU have to live up to YOUR responsibilities now” is a very convenient way for her to abolish herself of her own actions and irresponsible behavior. Pushing everything over to HIM. Women are COUNTING on this.

    It is a man’s responsibility to rip that rug out from underneath her.

    In today’s social and legal climate, Doc is definitely on to something….


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