Father Know’s Best: Dalrock’s Donnerstag Dozen

11 Oct

We often take a look here at some subject in-depth for a weekly linkfest. This week, i went through the Evernotes I have saved (which I learned to use when InMalaFide courteously gave me a week’s warning that it was going down and everything on it disappearing.) to review what I had bookmarked over at Dalrock’s Place. I selected 12 items that I thought were must-reads.

Dalrock’s purview is marriage, and what Christians can do to preserve and strengthen it, and also what they do to undermine it. My first link is his “Wife Interview” questions. This is basic to marital success, and as he writes: “I’m starting from the assumption that you are a (mostly) beta guy who is open to the idea of marrying. I’m also assuming that the basic criteria to consider marriage are already met. You are head over heels in love with this woman, and she is with you.” Further advice on marriage is his “Game Resources for Marriage” post, which perhaps ought to be continuously updated.

Why the concern for starting marriage correctly? Child support is unfairly biased against men. (See also his original post on this.) Child support is, in fact, a catastrophe.

Christians, unfortunately, seem less concerned with upholding chastity, and more about setting rules for fornication to make sexual sin less dangerous for women. (Some are oblivious, hopefully never to have reality intrude, like Darwin Catholic.) This is part of a quest for a way to women to ride the “carousel” and not get damaged by doing so; Dalrock points out the futility of this approach here.

Should a marriage begin to fail, a woman may withdraw her affection, sexual access, and “her” children, but the man must still supply his provisioning. Divorce and loss of his children then becomes a threat point with which women can force men to knuckle under to their demands. Perhaps the best explanation of the economics of the timing of divorce that I have ever read is his explication on a paper on no-fault divorce and rent-seeking: in a nutshell, divorces are most likely to happen when the WIFE still has sufficient beauty assets to attract another mate and yet extract wealth from the divorced husband and defrauded dad. These threats, and lack of exclusive access to a faithful woman, have gradually cheapened marriage, stripping away most of the valuable parts for men. Dalrock started out showing that there was in fact no “marriage strike” in the USA, but one wonders if he might not see the reason for it now in light of the realization in the previous link.

Dalrock’s presentation method is plainspoken, data-driven truth. Don’t be mistaken; the culture war is over, and feminism won. But no need to worry about that. It’s absurd, and will collapse. In the meantime, have a laugh at some of the absurd rationalizations of (self-) deluded women: The Rationalization Hamster 500 is one of the funniest true posts, a Manosphere classic. (Also quite funny, with great hamster photos, is this link.)


Posted by on October 11, 2012 in Linklove


5 responses to “Father Know’s Best: Dalrock’s Donnerstag Dozen

  1. Prinz Eugen

    October 11, 2012 at 7:30 pm

    I believe there is a marriage strike and at this point, this is probably the best possible outcome in this situation. I myself as well as others on here (Will I think) agree that modern women especially so-called “Christian” women are simply not worth the time, money and effort.

    Also I am the only one who is noticing that many “traditional” Catholic girls are now arguing that virginity doesn’t matter? I can’t find the link but I remember reading a posting on some Christian single girls blog where they were giving non-virgin girls advice on how to find and marry virgin guys? Women want all the benefits but none of the responsibilities.

  2. Will S.

    October 11, 2012 at 9:52 pm

    @ PE: “I myself as well as others on here (Will I think) agree that modern women especially so-called “Christian” women are simply not worth the time, money and effort.”

    I do indeed incline increasingly toward that POV myself; I’m still hopeful of possibly meeting a not-so-modern woman who is truly Christian, in thinking and worldview as well as her faith…

  3. Will S.

    October 11, 2012 at 9:54 pm

    @ PE: “Also I am the only one who is noticing that many “traditional” Catholic girls are now arguing that virginity doesn’t matter?”

    I remember a certain commenter over at Oz Conservative once saying that ‘baby bumps’ in engaged couples arriving at the altar, were pretty much the rule in Bavaria, and she saw nothing wrong with that whatsoever… She backpedalled afterwards, as she almost always does when she says something particularly foolish…

  4. Will S.

    October 11, 2012 at 9:55 pm

    @ EA: A good collection of Dalrock’s highlights, over the years.


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