We often take a look here at some subject in-depth for a weekly linkfest. This week, i went through the Evernotes I have saved (which I learned to use when InMalaFide courteously gave me a week’s warning that it was going down and everything on it disappearing.) to review what I had bookmarked over at Dalrock’s Place. I selected 12 items that I thought were must-reads.
Dalrock’s purview is marriage, and what Christians can do to preserve and strengthen it, and also what they do to undermine it. My first link is his “Wife Interview” questions. This is basic to marital success, and as he writes: “I’m starting from the assumption that you are a (mostly) beta guy who is open to the idea of marrying. I’m also assuming that the basic criteria to consider marriage are already met. You are head over heels in love with this woman, and she is with you.” Further advice on marriage is his “Game Resources for Marriage” post, which perhaps ought to be continuously updated.
Christians, unfortunately, seem less concerned with upholding chastity, and more about setting rules for fornication to make sexual sin less dangerous for women. (Some are oblivious, hopefully never to have reality intrude, like Darwin Catholic.) This is part of a quest for a way to women to ride the “carousel” and not get damaged by doing so; Dalrock points out the futility of this approach here.
Should a marriage begin to fail, a woman may withdraw her affection, sexual access, and “her” children, but the man must still supply his provisioning. Divorce and loss of his children then becomes a threat point with which women can force men to knuckle under to their demands. Perhaps the best explanation of the economics of the timing of divorce that I have ever read is his explication on a paper on no-fault divorce and rent-seeking: in a nutshell, divorces are most likely to happen when the WIFE still has sufficient beauty assets to attract another mate and yet extract wealth from the divorced husband and defrauded dad. These threats, and lack of exclusive access to a faithful woman, have gradually cheapened marriage, stripping away most of the valuable parts for men. Dalrock started out showing that there was in fact no “marriage strike” in the USA, but one wonders if he might not see the reason for it now in light of the realization in the previous link.
Dalrock’s presentation method is plainspoken, data-driven truth. Don’t be mistaken; the culture war is over, and feminism won. But no need to worry about that. It’s absurd, and will collapse. In the meantime, have a laugh at some of the absurd rationalizations of (self-) deluded women: The Rationalization Hamster 500 is one of the funniest true posts, a Manosphere classic. (Also quite funny, with great hamster photos, is this link.)