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Intelligence

10 Nov

Badger is man after my own heart. Beyond the nostalgia, though, is another question. Where is the sweet spot, the intersection between looks and intelligence that produces a highly desirable candidate for a mate?

Admittedly, this is one of my hobby horses, to the point that I’ll use shoddy research just for the sake of a post with graphs.

The comments to Badger’s post show that I am not alone. Superficially, those actresses are not Alyssa Milano, in her prime of course, but the fact that they are not mouth breathers elevates them.

Which brings us to today’s question:  When looking at potential wives and mothers what is more important, the looks or the books?

 
11 Comments

Posted by on November 10, 2011 in culture, Sex

 

11 responses to “Intelligence

  1. CL

    November 10, 2011 at 11:04 am

    I’ll just say what I’ve said before, which is that I think things work best if the man is smarter than the woman. As for the comments on your post about Hugh Laurie and Hugh Grant, I never could stand the latter. What a fop! Laurie, on the other hand, is great, both in comedy and as Dr House.

     
  2. Will S.

    November 10, 2011 at 12:31 pm

    I don’t know whether I wish to make a choice between smart and good-looking; I’d prefer both, of course. 🙂

    You have to be able to carry on a conversation, for you will spend more time talking than doing anything else, over the years; and ideally, I’d prefer a woman who is sympathetic, who would love me for me, not just for what I can do for her.

    So, I suppose personality and brains, count a bit more for me than looks alone. But as long as the woman is not butt-ugly, anything from Plain Jane to drop-dead gorgeous would be fine, looks-wise, as long as she knows how to ‘work’ what she has, if not a lot, so to speak.

     
  3. Will S.

    November 10, 2011 at 12:40 pm

    Lucky guy. 🙂

     
  4. Ulysses

    November 10, 2011 at 12:19 pm

    A smarter woman would invite problems, but I have always preferred smart women. My wife is not an exception to that preference. I cannot quantify it, but I think that intelligence moves the rank up. That is, a smart 6 who can discuss C.S. Lewis moves up to a 7, maybe even 8 if she knows how to dress.

     
  5. Ulysses

    November 10, 2011 at 12:38 pm

    Hey, I like both as well. When I met my wife, I wasn’t a zombie growling, “Brains!” I may have been operating from an equally instinctive urge, but it was not an urge borne of intelligence.

     
  6. 7man

    November 10, 2011 at 1:27 pm

    The combo is needed. Above average looks, smart and witty.

    I have noticed that the drop dead gorgeous women typically have not developed much bantering, intelligence or relational skills. But a good-looking women that has these skills will soon be seen as the more attractive woman.

     
  7. Will S.

    November 10, 2011 at 1:29 pm

    Just so, 7man; brains ARE beautiful, indeed.

    While the lack, thereof, drops beauty points, IMO.

     
  8. Will S.

    November 10, 2011 at 1:33 pm

     
  9. Ulysses

    November 10, 2011 at 1:37 pm

    I feel moved to present a one-line verse.

    The life for me is a wife with the Three Double B’s: big boobs, big butt, and big brains.

     
  10. Will S.

    November 10, 2011 at 1:57 pm

    Ha! Well, then, may you always remain so blessed. 🙂

     
  11. CL

    November 10, 2011 at 2:01 pm

    In that order, Ulysses?